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ASK, NOT TELL
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'How did you manage to do this?'
I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work. Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...
David
Dec 25, 20234 min read
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The moment just before
It has been a long while since I last wrote.  So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...
David
Dec 14, 20233 min read
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Sherlock vs Dorothy
I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...
David
Jun 1, 20221 min read
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A Midwife for Team Effectiveness
It was a difficult case of intact team development. Aspiration Bridge Company (pseudonym) is a foreign-owned financial services company...
David
Mar 31, 20223 min read
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Developing with and through others
(Photo source: Flora Baker @ twitter.com) 2021 has been a busy year. With the quieter Jan, I am going to catch up with my reflection...
David
Jan 24, 20223 min read
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Role – How a dog can ‘develop’ human
I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...
David
Mar 5, 20212 min read
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Role – Why me again fixing the Wifi?
One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...
David
Feb 24, 20213 min read
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Smoking can fix a lot of our (team) problems
(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...
David
Sep 3, 20203 min read
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Playing ‘Offence’ in Leadership Development
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] Numerous articles on the internet have...
David
May 12, 20202 min read
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‘Games’…. in Cantonese
(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...
David
Apr 5, 20202 min read
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‘Zero collusion’ can be equally bad
My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...
David
Dec 4, 20192 min read
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Seafood Market – What is really going on?
Many many years ago, there was a village where no one has ever eaten anything from the sea. A few village men accidentally caught a few...
David
Oct 29, 20193 min read
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‘Immunity to Change’ vs Psychodynamics
[Photo source unidentified. Please advise if anyone knows. I will add the source accordingly] I learnt to use the ‘Immunity to Change’...
David
Oct 19, 20194 min read
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‘Are-you-ok-I-am-ok’
It was Day 2 of the Gobi race and we were somewhere midway in the 96km race. Right in the middle of the day, all were tired and some...
David
May 3, 20193 min read
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Leadership Development in Gobi desert
Experiential learning to an extreme – a leadership development program in the form of a team walking race for 96km in 2.5 days over the...
David
May 1, 20191 min read
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Why does Economics assume rationality?
To a certain extent, I regret that I was major in Economics in university. Economics assumes that people are rational i.e. individuals...
David
Feb 24, 20193 min read
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Danny Chan 陳百強
I had a day of individual and team coaching sessions last month. I arrived early to settle myself in my coaching room. The first song...
David
Oct 16, 20181 min read
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‘I know how to ….. but I don’t really want to’
A reflection on a recent ‘learning miracle’. I conducted a day of group coaching with 5 executives in a business school program. ...
David
Oct 8, 20183 min read
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'What may also be going on?'
'What is really going on?' -Â It is the question often used in the Adaptive Leadership practice as well as in the psychodynamics...
David
Jun 12, 20182 min read
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