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I find myself asking this question more and more often in my coaching work.  Asking this question (with a tone out of curiosity and...

It has been a long while since I last wrote.   So much things have happened and there are a lot to reflect on. Let me first reflect on a...

I happened to come across again these 2 movies after I wrote my last post on 'Appreciating Defense'. The main characters in the movies...

Day 55 of the lockdown. The official announcement is that the restriction is being relaxed. But …. along with many others, our...

In the spring of 2022, I find myself like in a Group Relation Conference (GRC) of 900+ members in Shanghai. I am talking about the...

(Photo source - https://snapshotsforsoreeyes.com/2015/06/22/light-at-the-end/) Jimmy (pseudonym) told me (as the coach), ‘I am...

I reflected on the concept of ROLE in the last post – Why me again fixing the Wifi? I come across recently an unusual example in...

One day I found myself attempting to fix the Wifi at home again.  I was somehow annoyed with it.  ‘Why me again?’…. And I have already...

(Source: press.ikidane-nippon.com) An executive made a casual remark in a recent intact team development workshop, 'Smoking (together)...

(The psychological game – NIGYSOB – ‘Now I’ve got you, you son of a bitch’) This is another post which probably only my Cantonese readers...

My take on collusion (e.g. pleasing participants in developmental interventions) has been changing in the last few years. First, I was...

[Photo source unidentified.  Please advise if anyone knows.  I will add the source accordingly] In the ‘Journey to the West’ story (西游记),...

A reflection on a recent ‘learning miracle’. I conducted a day of group coaching with 5 executives in a business school program. ...

‘It is often safer to be in chains than to be free’ Franz Kafka I come across this quote on radio today. It explains so well how often...

'What is really going on?' -  It is the question often used in the Adaptive Leadership practice as well as in the psychodynamics...